Why Do I Only Cry at the Happy Bits?
In marriage counseling, we've been doing Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy - which is basically identifying your triggers- where you...
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Sarah Z.
- Aug 10
- 3 min
Committed Felony, Fell in Hole: How My Girls Night Out Went
I'm trying to make friends in our new home (3.5 years new) and it's haarrrrdddd. I'm only mildly social and pretty busy with kids, pets,...
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Sarah Z.
- Jun 6
- 3 min
PRIDE is the Best Parts of Church
Every time I go to a Pride event, I leave feeling amazing. The radical love and acceptance is so vivid, I can taste it in the air. It's a...
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Sarah Z.
- Mar 18
- 7 min
Where Do I Start? EMDR Therapy
I haven't been writing because I don't know how to begin to share what I've been going through. Also, I'm hesitant because I'm not sure...
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Sarah Z.
- Feb 1
- 2 min
Be a Jerk For Your Kid
That's what the therapist for my ten year-old told me tonight, when I was hemming and hawing over whether it was too much for me to ask...
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Sarah Z.
- Jan 26
- 4 min
Movie Review: Poor Things
Alright, so let me start by saying that this movie is strange and arty and will be taught in film school going forward. I am certain it's...
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Sarah Z.
- Jan 25
- 2 min
Forever Debating That Glass of Wine
I woke up with a headache and the feeling that leaving my bed today would be ambitious. It could be from the pressure changes; it’s...
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Sarah Z.
- Oct 18, 2023
- 4 min
Mansion/Apartment/Shack/House
Remember playing the M.A.S.H. game as kids? It very accurately predicted life as an adult: who you would marry, where you would live, ...
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Sarah Z.
- Sep 22, 2023
- 3 min
Costco-Related Anxiety Problem
Before you ask me why we go to Costco if it gives me such anxiety spasms, just know that 1) we live in the suburbs and have a pantry, 2)...
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Sarah Z.
- Sep 12, 2023
- 2 min
Is She a Good Mom?
Can she live up to what we all need her to be? GOOD MOM has big shoes to fill, but she must take tiny, quiet steps. Does she know what...
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Sarah Z.
- Aug 11, 2023
- 4 min
Sex is Funner After Forty
I've been hearing that magical shift that happens after forty for decades. I had friends who swore once they turned forty, they stopped...
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Sarah Z.
- Apr 27, 2023
- 3 min
And Suddenly (after 25 years of therapy) I Feel Calm Inside My Head
I'm worried that this will all sound trite on paper, but it feels big and light in my chest, so I'm going to try to express it the best I...
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Sarah Z.
- Mar 20, 2023
- 4 min
Sheepishly I Share That I'm Trying Not to Drink Right Now...
Alternate title: It's Probably Just Me and I Don't Want You To Worry About Me (But Please Worry About Me) I can't tell you how many...
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Sarah Z.
- Dec 9, 2022
- 3 min
Marriage Therapy Part Deux- The Parenting
So, remember when we started therapy with an older, wisened therapist who seemed kind of quirky? We met with him again this week, and I...
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Sarah Z.
- Nov 27, 2022
- 5 min
Parenting: The Power and the Pain
My heart hurts all the time, and I'm told that's normal when you're a parent. I worry, I fear, I struggle, I put everything I have into...
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Sarah Z.
- Oct 11, 2022
- 4 min
So I Guess I'm a Burlesque Dancer Now?
I now have video proof of what I look like when dancing topless. It's not great. "Oh, God, that's me?!" BUT I'm trying REALLY hard to see...
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Sarah Z.
- Sep 25, 2022
- 3 min
Sleeping It Off
I'm sitting on a hotel bed, surrounded by leftover containers and coffee mugs. The continental breakfast included miso soup and kimchi...
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Sarah Z.
- Aug 26, 2022
- 3 min
Hey, Parent, Is Your Kid Starting a New School Year? LOL, Good Luck, Chump
I'm sitting here trying not to cry. Not exactly sure why I'm holding back, probably just habit, a discipline I've forced on myself from...
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Sarah Z.
- Aug 18, 2022
- 2 min
My Kid Started Middle School Today: Here Are My Top 20 Fears, In No Particular Order
He wasn't raised right and that's on me, and now it's too late He'll get lost on his way to school and end up joining a band of nomads...
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