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The instinct to grip hard and never let go to keep them (me) feeling safe is contrary to how growth works. My job is to let go just as soon as I can so they can fly on their own. If I keep holding them to me, we'll both stay stuck in the nest, or plummet to the ground in a tangle of broken wings.

My stupid morning started at midnight.

Radical kindness + take care of your own heart + keep perspective on where we are in history.

We had an option and we chose this. Bruised all over inside, soggy around the edges. I am grieving.

In marriage counseling, we've been doing Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy - which is basically identifying your triggers- where you...

I'm trying to make friends in our new home (3.5 years new) and it's haarrrrdddd. I'm only mildly social and pretty busy with kids, pets,...

Every time I go to a Pride event, I leave feeling amazing. The radical love and acceptance is so vivid, I can taste it in the air. It's a...

I haven't been writing because I don't know how to begin to share what I've been going through. Also, I'm hesitant because I'm not sure...

That's what the therapist for my ten year-old told me tonight, when I was hemming and hawing over whether it was too much for me to ask...

Alright, so let me start by saying that this movie is strange and arty and will be taught in film school going forward. I am certain it's...

I woke up with a headache and the feeling that leaving my bed today would be ambitious. It could be from the pressure changes; it’s...

Remember playing the M.A.S.H. game as kids? It very accurately predicted life as an adult: who you would marry, where you would live, ...

I long to have a place inside me that feels safe, no matter what is happening outside of me. A little island that's always dry and warm,...

Before you ask me why we go to Costco if it gives me such anxiety spasms, just know that 1) we live in the suburbs and have a pantry, 2)...

Can she live up to what we all need her to be? GOOD MOM has big shoes to fill, but she must take tiny, quiet steps. Does she know what...

I've been hearing that magical shift that happens after forty for decades. I had friends who swore once they turned forty, they stopped...

I'm worried that this will all sound trite on paper, but it feels big and light in my chest, so I'm going to try to express it the best I...

Alternate title: It's Probably Just Me and I Don't Want You To Worry About Me (But Please Worry About Me) I can't tell you how many...

So, remember when we started therapy with an older, wisened therapist who seemed kind of quirky? We met with him again this week, and I...

My heart hurts all the time, and I'm told that's normal when you're a parent. I worry, I fear, I struggle, I put everything I have into...