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Sarah Z.
Feb 25 min read
The Ant and the Cookie
Radical kindness + take care of your own heart + keep perspective on where we are in history.
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Sarah Z.
Sep 4, 20243 min read
Why Do I Only Cry at the Happy Bits?
In marriage counseling, we've been doing Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy - which is basically identifying your triggers- where you...
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Sarah Z.
Aug 21, 20244 min read
The Deepest, Darkest
It started about a week ago, this sense of doom. The kids were getting ready to go back to school, and instead of tasting my impending...
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Sarah Z.
Jun 6, 20243 min read
PRIDE is the Best Parts of Church
Every time I go to a Pride event, I leave feeling amazing. The radical love and acceptance is so vivid, I can taste it in the air. It's a...
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Sarah Z.
May 9, 20245 min read
Sad Mad Sad Bad(?) Sad Sad Sad
I don't know how to function when my kid is struggling. I'm sure it's condependent and there's a better way, but when my kids are in...
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Sarah Z.
Mar 18, 20247 min read
Where Do I Start? EMDR Therapy
I haven't been writing because I don't know how to begin to share what I've been going through. Also, I'm hesitant because I'm not sure...
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Sarah Z.
Feb 1, 20242 min read
Be a Jerk For Your Kid
That's what the therapist for my ten year-old told me tonight, when I was hemming and hawing over whether it was too much for me to ask...
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Sarah Z.
Jan 26, 20244 min read
Movie Review: Poor Things
Alright, so let me start by saying that this movie is strange and arty and will be taught in film school going forward. I am certain it's...
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Sarah Z.
Jan 25, 20242 min read
Forever Debating That Glass of Wine
I woke up with a headache and the feeling that leaving my bed today would be ambitious. It could be from the pressure changes; it’s...
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Sarah Z.
Sep 22, 20233 min read
Costco-Related Anxiety Problem
Before you ask me why we go to Costco if it gives me such anxiety spasms, just know that 1) we live in the suburbs and have a pantry, 2)...
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Sarah Z.
Aug 11, 20234 min read
Sex is Funner After Forty
I've been hearing that magical shift that happens after forty for decades. I had friends who swore once they turned forty, they stopped...
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Sarah Z.
May 12, 20236 min read
When My Psychic Introduced Me to My Ghosts
It's taken me a few days to work through my feelings. I hadn't fully understood what it would do to me to commune with some of those...
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Sarah Z.
Apr 27, 20233 min read
And Suddenly (after 25 years of therapy) I Feel Calm Inside My Head
I'm worried that this will all sound trite on paper, but it feels big and light in my chest, so I'm going to try to express it the best I...
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Sarah Z.
Mar 20, 20234 min read
Sheepishly I Share That I'm Trying Not to Drink Right Now...
Alternate title: It's Probably Just Me and I Don't Want You To Worry About Me (But Please Worry About Me) I can't tell you how many...
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Sarah Z.
Feb 17, 20238 min read
New Marriage, Who Dis
This was from 23 years ago-we'd been dating for about 3 years and got married 2 years after this. I was 19, he was 22. That was...
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Sarah Z.
Dec 9, 20223 min read
Marriage Therapy Part Deux- The Parenting
So, remember when we started therapy with an older, wisened therapist who seemed kind of quirky? We met with him again this week, and I...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 30, 20223 min read
First Day of Marriage Camp: HERE'S the Beef
We had our first marriage counseling session today. I was nervous (see previous fear rant) and skeptical as the therapist the online...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 28, 20224 min read
They Tried to Make Me Go to Marriage Counseling and I Said
I have advised a lot of other people to do marriage counseling over the years and have even said dumb shit like, "It's a way to keep...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 27, 20225 min read
Parenting: The Power and the Pain
My heart hurts all the time, and I'm told that's normal when you're a parent. I worry, I fear, I struggle, I put everything I have into...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 4, 20224 min read
And So Then I Got Naked
This morning, while I was pulling up the x-ray image of my child's broken bone on my phone, I'm certain the orthopedic surgeon glimpsed...
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