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How to Be a Parent and a Person Simultaneously, Oy
The instinct to grip hard and never let go to keep them (me) feeling safe is contrary to how growth works. My job is to let go just as soon as I can so they can fly on their own. If I keep holding them to me, we'll both stay stuck in the nest, or plummet to the ground in a tangle of broken wings.

Sarah Z.
Apr 213 min read
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Well, That Was Ridiculous
My stupid morning started at midnight.

Sarah Z.
Apr 24 min read
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The Deepest, Darkest
It started about a week ago, this sense of doom. The kids were getting ready to go back to school, and instead of tasting my impending...

Sarah Z.
Aug 21, 20244 min read
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Sad Mad Sad Bad(?) Sad Sad Sad
I don't know how to function when my kid is struggling. I'm sure it's condependent and there's a better way, but when my kids are in...

Sarah Z.
May 9, 20245 min read
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Where Do I Start? EMDR Therapy
I haven't been writing because I don't know how to begin to share what I've been going through. Also, I'm hesitant because I'm not sure...

Sarah Z.
Mar 18, 20247 min read
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Be a Jerk For Your Kid
That's what the therapist for my ten year-old told me tonight, when I was hemming and hawing over whether it was too much for me to ask...

Sarah Z.
Feb 1, 20242 min read
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Mansion/Apartment/Shack/House
Remember playing the M.A.S.H. game as kids? It very accurately predicted life as an adult: who you would marry, where you would live, ...

Sarah Z.
Oct 18, 20234 min read
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Is She a Good Mom?
Can she live up to what we all need her to be? GOOD MOM has big shoes to fill, but she must take tiny, quiet steps. Does she know what...

Sarah Z.
Sep 12, 20232 min read
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Hey Barbie, What’s Your Sign?
(Variations of this essay were awarded the 2018 Royal Nonesuch Humor Writing Contest Adult Author Category – Third Prize and 2019 Erma...

Sarah Z.
Jul 30, 202312 min read
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Vaca with Kids Confuses My Brain
Picture it: you have a huge bowl of your favorite ice cream, fresh out of the freezer, just the right amount of melty. It looks and...

Sarah Z.
Jul 18, 20233 min read
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New Marriage, Who Dis
This was from 23 years ago-we'd been dating for about 3 years and got married 2 years after this. I was 19, he was 22. That was...

Sarah Z.
Feb 17, 20238 min read
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Marriage Therapy Part Deux- The Parenting
So, remember when we started therapy with an older, wisened therapist who seemed kind of quirky? We met with him again this week, and I...

Sarah Z.
Dec 9, 20223 min read
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Parenting: The Power and the Pain
My heart hurts all the time, and I'm told that's normal when you're a parent. I worry, I fear, I struggle, I put everything I have into...

Sarah Z.
Nov 27, 20225 min read
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Sleeping It Off
I'm sitting on a hotel bed, surrounded by leftover containers and coffee mugs. The continental breakfast included miso soup and kimchi...

Sarah Z.
Sep 25, 20223 min read
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Hey, Parent, Is Your Kid Starting a New School Year? LOL, Good Luck, Chump
I'm sitting here trying not to cry. Not exactly sure why I'm holding back, probably just habit, a discipline I've forced on myself from...

Sarah Z.
Aug 26, 20223 min read
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My Kid Started Middle School Today: Here Are My Top 20 Fears, In No Particular Order
He wasn't raised right and that's on me, and now it's too late He'll get lost on his way to school and end up joining a band of nomads...

Sarah Z.
Aug 18, 20222 min read
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Review: "Togetherness," HBO, and the Unicorn Male Friendship
There are no actual unicorns in this show (sadly- but there are some cute aliens in the finale, so we'll allow it), it's just one of...

Sarah Z.
Jul 28, 20223 min read
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My Dearest Family, Fuck Off, With Love
Recently my husband and I had a big ol' fight about the fact that he exists at the same time that I exist, in the same home, and how I...

Sarah Z.
Jul 27, 20223 min read
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Parenting Can Feel Lonely; Thank God for Teachers
Recently, we went to the fifth grade graduation ceremony for our eldest...and I wept. It's still a fairly new school to us- we only...

Sarah Z.
Jun 21, 20222 min read
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COVID and Parenting, Send Soup
In a way, I think it made it easier when I myself got sick, too, because then I could just lie down and stay stoned on NyQuil while the...

Sarah Z.
Jun 3, 20222 min read
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