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So, tonight I watched "The Substance" while I made dinner (a cool movie and a poor choice of venue). It's a fabulous cultural take-down of beauty standards and youth obsession and skinny culture set in the MOST awesome, grotesque body horror situation. Demi Moore, Margaret Qualley, and writer/director Coralie Fargeat deserve all the flowers they got for this. It's intense, specific, and cutting to the marrow. And SO MANY BUTTS! Also freaky blood-soaked creatures. Just delight

When my first kid was a few weeks old, I was sobbing on the couch and my husband was arguing with me instead of helping me, so I stood up with the baby to get some tissue from the bathroom and pulled the bathroom door completely off with one hand. Now , the bathroom had been hastily added on by the previous owners and the door was made of plywood and moonshine, but still, I aped the door out of its frame while holding an infant. It both amused and freaked us the fuck out. N

My middle schooler mostly watches teen drama/murder mystery/Korean pop star satan pursuers/reality dating, but when they want to have a...

Grief. Big personal changes. Kids. Those fucking novels. Making z money.

I don't really know what to tell you will come next. I think it will get very quiet and still. I hope there is lots of bread.

I get way nicer to my partner when I reconnect with myself, too. I'm always the last to know when I'm spiraling. Other people observe me...

I've been writing, but not sharing it. Partly, because I'm mid-process in a few novels, so unless you're reading beta versions for me,...

The ride is so, SO worth the hard emotions and even in the final most devastating moments, the characters are fucking hilarious. Like, shockingly, bawdily funny. These are the friends who can't be allowed to sit next to each other at serious events because they'll giggle and misbehave and it's a pleasure to watch them sit together through the MOST serious thing that could happen and giggle and misbehave.

The instinct to grip hard and never let go to keep them (me) feeling safe is contrary to how growth works. My job is to let go just as soon as I can so they can fly on their own. If I keep holding them to me, we'll both stay stuck in the nest, or plummet to the ground in a tangle of broken wings.

LOOKING FOR BETA READERS! HELLO, MY NAME IS ASH (First of the Red Door Series), is a middle grade fantasy about a nonbinary 4th grader...

My stupid morning started at midnight.

Radical kindness + take care of your own heart + keep perspective on where we are in history.

I think it's an exaggeration to say time heals all wounds. Some can't and you just learn to build your new self around them.

We had an option and we chose this. Bruised all over inside, soggy around the edges. I am grieving.

In marriage counseling, we've been doing Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy - which is basically identifying your triggers- where you...

It started about a week ago, this sense of doom. The kids were getting ready to go back to school, and instead of tasting my impending...

I'm trying to make friends in our new home (3.5 years new) and it's haarrrrdddd. I'm only mildly social and pretty busy with kids, pets,...

Every time I go to a Pride event, I leave feeling amazing. The radical love and acceptance is so vivid, I can taste it in the air. It's a...

I don't know how to function when my kid is struggling. I'm sure it's condependent and there's a better way, but when my kids are in...

I haven't been writing because I don't know how to begin to share what I've been going through. Also, I'm hesitant because I'm not sure...