Why Do I Only Cry at the Happy Bits?
In marriage counseling, we've been doing Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy - which is basically identifying your triggers- where you...
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Sarah Z.
Aug 214 min
The Deepest, Darkest
It started about a week ago, this sense of doom. The kids were getting ready to go back to school, and instead of tasting my impending...
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Sarah Z.
Aug 103 min
Committed Felony, Fell in Hole: How My Girls Night Out Went
I'm trying to make friends in our new home (3.5 years new) and it's haarrrrdddd. I'm only mildly social and pretty busy with kids, pets,...
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Sarah Z.
Jun 63 min
PRIDE is the Best Parts of Church
Every time I go to a Pride event, I leave feeling amazing. The radical love and acceptance is so vivid, I can taste it in the air. It's a...
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Sarah Z.
May 95 min
Sad Mad Sad Bad(?) Sad Sad Sad
I don't know how to function when my kid is struggling. I'm sure it's condependent and there's a better way, but when my kids are in...
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Sarah Z.
Mar 187 min
Where Do I Start? EMDR Therapy
I haven't been writing because I don't know how to begin to share what I've been going through. Also, I'm hesitant because I'm not sure...
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Sarah Z.
Feb 12 min
Be a Jerk For Your Kid
That's what the therapist for my ten year-old told me tonight, when I was hemming and hawing over whether it was too much for me to ask...
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Sarah Z.
Jan 252 min
Forever Debating That Glass of Wine
I woke up with a headache and the feeling that leaving my bed today would be ambitious. It could be from the pressure changes; it’s...
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Sarah Z.
Sep 12, 20232 min
Is She a Good Mom?
Can she live up to what we all need her to be? GOOD MOM has big shoes to fill, but she must take tiny, quiet steps. Does she know what...
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Sarah Z.
Aug 11, 20234 min
Sex is Funner After Forty
I've been hearing that magical shift that happens after forty for decades. I had friends who swore once they turned forty, they stopped...
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Sarah Z.
Apr 27, 20233 min
And Suddenly (after 25 years of therapy) I Feel Calm Inside My Head
I'm worried that this will all sound trite on paper, but it feels big and light in my chest, so I'm going to try to express it the best I...
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Sarah Z.
Feb 17, 20238 min
New Marriage, Who Dis
This was from 23 years ago-we'd been dating for about 3 years and got married 2 years after this. I was 19, he was 22. That was...
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Sarah Z.
Dec 9, 20223 min
Marriage Therapy Part Deux- The Parenting
So, remember when we started therapy with an older, wisened therapist who seemed kind of quirky? We met with him again this week, and I...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 30, 20223 min
First Day of Marriage Camp: HERE'S the Beef
We had our first marriage counseling session today. I was nervous (see previous fear rant) and skeptical as the therapist the online...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 27, 20225 min
Parenting: The Power and the Pain
My heart hurts all the time, and I'm told that's normal when you're a parent. I worry, I fear, I struggle, I put everything I have into...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 8, 20221 min
Chatting with The Showgirl Shaman!
I recently performed the burlesque act that I've been working on for the past few months. The showcase was transformational and the whole...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 4, 20224 min
And So Then I Got Naked
This morning, while I was pulling up the x-ray image of my child's broken bone on my phone, I'm certain the orthopedic surgeon glimpsed...
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Sarah Z.
Oct 11, 20224 min
So I Guess I'm a Burlesque Dancer Now?
I now have video proof of what I look like when dancing topless. It's not great. "Oh, God, that's me?!" BUT I'm trying REALLY hard to see...
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Sarah Z.
Sep 25, 20223 min
Sleeping It Off
I'm sitting on a hotel bed, surrounded by leftover containers and coffee mugs. The continental breakfast included miso soup and kimchi...
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