The Deepest, Darkest
It started about a week ago, this sense of doom. The kids were getting ready to go back to school, and instead of tasting my impending...
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Sarah Z.
Feb 12 min read
Be a Jerk For Your Kid
That's what the therapist for my ten year-old told me tonight, when I was hemming and hawing over whether it was too much for me to ask...
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Sarah Z.
Sep 12, 20232 min read
Is She a Good Mom?
Can she live up to what we all need her to be? GOOD MOM has big shoes to fill, but she must take tiny, quiet steps. Does she know what...
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Sarah Z.
Jul 18, 20233 min read
Vaca with Kids Confuses My Brain
Picture it: you have a huge bowl of your favorite ice cream, fresh out of the freezer, just the right amount of melty. It looks and...
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Sarah Z.
Feb 17, 20238 min read
New Marriage, Who Dis
This was from 23 years ago-we'd been dating for about 3 years and got married 2 years after this. I was 19, he was 22. That was...
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Sarah Z.
Dec 9, 20223 min read
Marriage Therapy Part Deux- The Parenting
So, remember when we started therapy with an older, wisened therapist who seemed kind of quirky? We met with him again this week, and I...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 28, 20224 min read
They Tried to Make Me Go to Marriage Counseling and I Said
I have advised a lot of other people to do marriage counseling over the years and have even said dumb shit like, "It's a way to keep...
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Sarah Z.
Nov 27, 20225 min read
Parenting: The Power and the Pain
My heart hurts all the time, and I'm told that's normal when you're a parent. I worry, I fear, I struggle, I put everything I have into...
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Sarah Z.
Aug 26, 20223 min read
Hey, Parent, Is Your Kid Starting a New School Year? LOL, Good Luck, Chump
I'm sitting here trying not to cry. Not exactly sure why I'm holding back, probably just habit, a discipline I've forced on myself from...
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Sarah Z.
Aug 18, 20222 min read
My Kid Started Middle School Today: Here Are My Top 20 Fears, In No Particular Order
He wasn't raised right and that's on me, and now it's too late He'll get lost on his way to school and end up joining a band of nomads...
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Sarah Z.
Jul 27, 20223 min read
My Dearest Family, Fuck Off, With Love
Recently my husband and I had a big ol' fight about the fact that he exists at the same time that I exist, in the same home, and how I...
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Sarah Z.
Jun 21, 20222 min read
Parenting Can Feel Lonely; Thank God for Teachers
Recently, we went to the fifth grade graduation ceremony for our eldest...and I wept. It's still a fairly new school to us- we only...
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Sarah Z.
Jun 3, 20222 min read
COVID and Parenting, Send Soup
In a way, I think it made it easier when I myself got sick, too, because then I could just lie down and stay stoned on NyQuil while the...
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Sarah Z.
May 29, 20223 min read
Don’t Let Your Kid Name the Cat
This week, COVID finally hit us. We’ve been as cautious as we reasonably could be, but you know, COVID’s like honey badger; it don’t...
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Sarah Z.
May 8, 20221 min read
The MOTHER of All Holiday Triggers: It's OK Not to Feel Celebratory on Mother's Day
https://www.the-seam.com/stories/the-mother-of-all-holiday-triggers-its-ok-not-to-feel-celebratory-on-mothers-day
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Sarah Z.
Mar 9, 20220 min read
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Sarah Z.
Jan 20, 20222 min read
My Dog Ate My Attempt at Good Parenting
The mother was dressed in clean clothes and had taken a shower and applied deoderant. This was one of her better-smelling days. She had...
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Sarah Z.
Jan 11, 20222 min read
Raising Kids Among Zombies
There are always threats that you fear will harm your kids- and as they age, the threats go from the purely physical kind to the physical...
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Sarah Z.
Jan 7, 20221 min read
Anyone Doing Dry January? Dry 2022? Dry Life?
Between my 39th and 40th birthdays, I abstained from alcohol. I realized how much I’d been using it to try to dull anxiety in charged...
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Sarah Z.
Dec 3, 20213 min read
Let “Civilized” Shit Go
Last night we had no clean, dry bath towels, so I gave my kids beach towels to use after their showers. I had a twinge of, “Oh, my God,...
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